The Confrontation

What's that? Well. It does sound like a confrontation to me anyway. Haha.

He asked me to meet him for lunch on Monday as he needed to talk to me. I was unhappy that he had to show up at my office unannounced again. Awkward silence fell on us as I ate my rice burger at Mos burger, not bothering to look up or talk as I felt that everything had been clarified. He had this vindictive and reprimanding look on his face.

What he said to me made me really angry and peeved. I didnt understand why he was turning the tables on me, twisting the facts and blaming it on me. I know rejection is not easy for both parties but it has to be done. I guess he didnt understand why I dont like him either. Though I knew him 3 to 4 years ago from business school in university, I hated it when he displayed his honeyed talkative tongue, his arrogance and sense of self-fulfilling nobility.

Back then about 3 years ago, we had gone out with each other almost 2 to 3 times a month. Sometimes it would be more. I treated it as a friends' outing but later on as the outings became more and more frequent and he became more and more persistent, I started to wonder. Cos it's like if I said this week I wasnt free, he would ask about the next and nail the outing then. I felt slightly caged, I wanted to go out with other friends but I was too soft-hearted and not glib enough to reject more often.

One day I couldnt take it any longer. My thoughts went like, "Why is he asking me out so often, is there something going on?, Does he treat me as a friend or what? Is he using me just to fill up his time while he's on the lookout for other girls?" So I had to clarify our relationship and lucky I did. He said everytime he went out with me, it was just a friends' outing and not a date. I lessened my time out with him then on, thinking how dumb I was. I was just a filler for his time, really! (I even spent 1 Valentine's day having coffee and listening to him talk about avoiding his "gf" of 4 days cos he felt that he made a move on the wrong gal, love wasnt what he imagined to be).

So when he asked me what about the times he went cycling with me, what about the time I went Sentosa on his free tickets and all the other outings, I really wanted to scream. I wanted to tell him to wake up to his ideas and get his bloody facts right.

You were the one who said we were only going out as friends, nothing special about it. Get it straight. This was the common understanding we had from 2003 onwards. If your feelings changed and you started to feel that going out with me was now a date, I didnt know, you didnt tell. You assumed. It's not my fault. We had a MOU - memorandum of understanding! Dont you get it?!

We went cycling and toured Sentosa in 2003. That was 2 years back. You said your feelings changed sometime late 2004. So these events are of a DIFFERENT time period.

Ultimately, just get your facts straight.

Dont blame it on me that I have someone dear to my heart now. Dont say I led you on, I never did. I avoided going out with you 90% of the time, I turned more quiet during our conversations - you hogged them; you never took the hints.