One of my closer church friends got married in November this year and I was involved in the designing of powerpoint slides and program sheet. It's my first time attending a church wedding and preparing so much for it but it was fun. On the wedding day itself, I was one of the ushers and I could really feel the anticipation of the groom and the bride at the entrance. The bride was smiling so happily all day despite that she was quite a fierce person in everyday life. The church wedding solemnization was hilarious as the bride forgot her vows and the officiating minister had to read out the lines quietly to her but we could hear. Despite this, I felt that the vows are so meaningful and seeing the joy and smiles on the groom and bride was very heartwarming.
I felt really happy for the couple as they have come a long way, with 5 years of dating behind them and lots of ups and downs. The guy was non-Christian when they initially dated and the girl tried to break up several times so as to submit to God's Will but they got back together after awhile each time. There was one final break-up where we all thought it was the end but the guy loved the girl so much, he felt that it was not worth to give up without a fight. So he went to explore Christianity and God, trying to understand what power this sovereign being has over this girl, what He symbolises and whether He is real in people's lives. I am glad to say that he was convinced and by faith, he believed in God but he was unsure if he still should pursue the girl back. Fortunately their mutual friend helped them and the couple was reunited eventually. In his thank-you speech at the wedding dinner, I could tell how much he really believed in God and that their union was the result of God's Will and from now onwards, God will be their life beacon. Really touching.
On hindsight, a wedding involves so much preparation, coordination and cooperation. I faced some setbacks in the designing because the groom wanted something elegant and 3D while the bride wanted something simple and plain. In addition, there were so many changes as I did not know what they wanted and they couldn't really make up their minds. I felt that some of their ideas were quite unpractical EG. reflective paper for the church ceremony program sheet, which was not practical and wasteful. Everyone uses normal paper, photostated, because everyone throws away the sheets after use. Whatever, it's their money and their wedding. However, there were times I wanted to throw in the towel and tell them to discuss among themselves and then tell those who are helping them what they want and what needs to be done. I guess being engineers, the couple is not very good at coordination and liaision work. Haha. Whatever it is, the wedding got on quite well despite some hiccups.
In them, I see that a marriage is about committment to each other, to support, hold and love each other every step of life's journey , knowing that they are no longer separate entities but one body, one union. Marriage is about having the same goals and values to look forward to and work towards as well. And I guess for them, they can look forward to God's promise of eternity in Heaven.
This leads me to wonder, what exactly is marriage to me? How would I know if I am suitable for marriage or someone is suitable for marrying me? Or whatever.
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