Pissing formal notice

Gave formal notice of my resignation to my boss through email today as she was away on an overseas trip and I was due to go on a holiday tomorow. So no choice.

Thought my boss would be professional and calm about it but she had a very big reaction and her tone was awful through email! I read it and was super super pissed and upset till I wanted to cry.

Initially her reply to my notice was if I could give one full month's notice after my overseas trip. So I told her I cannot as the other side wants me to start end of Aug and this holiday was pre-planned. Would it be possible if I offset my leave or take unpaid leave.

Her reply after that was curt, saying that it is the company policy to not take leave during the notice period and the company is not responsible for my future employer's expectations. Before I had time to respond and say I will check again with the future employer, she emailed back very sarcastically, "Hi amy seems like you have confirmed all these on your own, there's little we can do, so just leave things as is."

While I understand that I may not have given her enough face and rejected her offer to start notice later, I cannot tolerate her horrible behaviour!! She sounded really angry and indignant but while it is company policy, surely it is flexible enough. Yet I know my boss too well, she's just wants to follow company rules to the T. When I saw her last reply, I was extremely stressed and super pissed off. How could a 60plus career woman say this??

I was on the verge of crying when I called the HR manager handling my case for the future employer. She was so nice and understanding, I almost felt like she was a good samaritan. She told me not to worry too much, some bosses get really personal. She told me to just go and enjoy my pre-planned holiday on Friday and call her when I am back. She will speak to my future boss about it if my boss and HR insists on the full one-month period without leave, so I can start in early Sep. I was so thankful for that!

I finally knew my decision to leave was right. Super right.