That special feeling

People have different definitions of love and how a relationship should be. So do I. I don’t need so much of the excitement of the chase, the surprise gifts that are showered nor the romantic gestures of flowers and red wine or any unique new ways a guy tries to impress a gal. It’s not about confiding in each other anything and everything or to inform the other person what has happened in your day. For me, I think, simply being down-to-earth and sincere and faithful is good enough.

Well, I don’t know how to describe it but it’s a special warm feeling J and I have for each other. Something that makes me feel I want to spend the rest of my life with him. I know and I am glad he very much feels the same way too. I guess finding a soul-mate really creates wonders. He gives me a sense of security and responsibility, which I know that I can rely on him for emotional support. This, I think is extremely important in a relationship. It’s like a ship seeking refuge in a trusted harbour. When he holds my hands, I know he’s not holding it for the sake of doing so, he does it because I am someone close to him and to show that he’s with me. With him, I feel and am well taken care of, be it my physical or emotional being.

J is rather quiet and abit of a blockhead as he always terms himself. I can’t agree more with his self knowledge but I guess these are traits that make him unique and endearing to me. Perhaps I can’t stand noisy guys who hog the limelight. I feel that you don’t need words all the time, silence can tell a lot. Silence can mean that you are so comfortable with each other that being in each other’s arms and enjoying “time alone” is meaningful too.

• He remembers the things that I say, be it important events such as my 1st day at my job, interviews or overseas trips or food I like to small things that I do not think he would remember.
• He always makes sure my stomach is filled.
• He does activities that he doesn’t do normally just to accompany me and make me happy, like shopping.
• He takes an interest in my activities and would ask me how's my day or how a certain outing had gone. I very much learnt to be more caring from him, given that I am quite aloof. Improving and getting there.

In addition, he’s pretty innocent in his feelings, WYSIWYG. It is not camouflaged by gifts, honeyed words, well-crafted surprises, etc.

I believe that however elaborate a gift is, however unique an idea is, however honeyed words are, these will fade with time but what remains is the love and concern you have for him or her as well as the goodness and happiness that you want for the person you love.