Humans are always troubled by love. So am I. But why am I troubled? I guess my blur brain has gone into overdrive, it will be normal soon, yes it will... it will stop wandering... soon..
My friend said the concept of a love (and I mean BGR) is purely wanting & being very happy to see and being by a loved one's side..... and to share things that happen in his/her daily life be it sad or happy stuff (I really quote). Well, I am not an expert in relationships but I just cant help feeling uncomfortable with my friend's definition. It just sounds a tad selfish or superficial.
In my opinion, love is not just about sharing everything that happened in each other's daily life.. In fact, it sounds scary. Imagine having to list down detailedly what you did, who you talked to, what time did you do what, who you went out with, what you all did? Hmm.. Some people may beg to differ. But I think I can deal with normal conflicts and grouses at work, small upsets or momentary happiness over the most nonsensical things in my daily life myself, thank you very much.
It doesnt harm a relationship to talk about all these kind of trivial things but I feel on a deeper level, a couple needs to communicate each other's values, principles and even problems that would have an impact on each other or require some moral support and reassurance. Hmm.. wonder if it actually makes sense.
Why do I say the quote above by my friend is selfish? It's because it's just all about "I". Where is the "You" or the other half? Shouldnt it be I want to know what my Other Half's day is good, if he/she has any problems affecting him/ her, etc? Isnt a relationship being concerned about each other's mental, physical and emotional well-being with an emphasis on the other person? Because you love him/ her, you just want him/ her to be happy being together with you.
Love is as simple as that. Love is being there for your loved one when he/she needs you or "lurking" in the shadows when he/ she can handle an issue him/herself so that if at anytime you can lend a helping hand. Love is about understanding his/ her, accepting him/her as he/ she is. Love is wanting THE OTHER PERSON to be happy and you will be contented. "I" take the backseat, "You" will get the frontseat.
Love should never be entirely about oneself.
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